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Advice about guys!!! (Shy ones in particular)

by Guest9154 | 12 years, 8 month(s) ago

Hi! So I met this shy but very handsome guy who is the same age as me (24) in my public speaking group. We have exchanged many glances and smile in the group setting but he tends to be a lot more shy one-on-one. 2 Weeks ago I was walking ahead of him and he said: "u've straightened your hair and you've colored it..." (his attempt at flirting?) Anyway, I am just wondering how I should handle a shy guy. Esspecially because lately this middle-aged man in the club who I dont like asked me out a few weeks ago and ever since I rejected him, he has been picking on my crush and trying to make jokes about how much of a shy guy he or how he is a player, etc. What do I do???

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Guest2440

I'm very glad that you rejected the older guy. At the age 24 year I would advise you to stay away from anyone older than 29 years. Believe me, older guys have issues. So, tell him that he should fine someone who is closer to his own age group is and don’t feel bad about saying it. Take your time with the shy guy and get to know him maybe if you got to know him well enough he might not be that shy after all.
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Guest3695

Guys normally do not enjoy being shy and particularly do not enjoy it when it comes to meeting the member of the opposite s*x. However, shyness is a common trend among men everywhere, more common than many women may think. When it comes to dealing with shy guys, the first thing to remember is to always be yourself.

You may think this advice to be cliché but it is so true. Do not pretend to be someone other than who you are because at the end of the day, he needs to like you and not some pretend you. Be confident about who you are and recognize the value of yourself by being you. Say hello hi, and lead the small talk; its not that shy guys don’t want to talk; they want to have fun just as much as anyone else but they some time don’t know what to say; and because they don’t want to say anything wrong; they don’t say anything at all.

When he commented on your hair; it shows that he is noticing you just as much as you are noticing him.  Trust me it took a lot for him to utter those words, in reality he was trying to tell you, “you are beautiful, I love your hair and I pay attention to everything you do” but all he could say “u've straightened your hair and you've colored it”. even for those few words he probably thought about how to say it for a long while or even practiced talking in the mirror while he was alone and nobody was looking.

Best thing you can do is to carry the conversation until he feels he can talk to you without looking stupid.  And when he feels that way; you could be amazed at things he comes up with.  He just needs more social interaction with you.
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