How Can Someone Make a Committed Relationship Last?

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1. Merlyn
   

   In every relationship the inevitable will happen...a fight!
   
   Hopefully not the physically abusive type, but just a heated disagreement that can sometimes cause the other party to throw their hands up and break up the relationship.
   
   How can you avoid this?
   
   You really can't if your mate is dead set on going their own way.
   
   But there are some things you can do to lessen the severity of an argument to later make up. And we all know from Seinfeld, that make up s*x is the best part of the relationship right? Just kidding!
   Anyway, here are some important things you can do to make your relationship last:
   
   First you have to be willing to forgive.
   
   Forgiveness is a big part of making a loving relationship work.
   
   When a person lacks the ability to forgive in relationships, it often causes problems along the way. Many relationships fall apart since one partner may say I forgive you, while showing behaviors that say something else.
   
   If you're going to sincerely forgive your mate you'll let go of what started a fight or disagreement. Doing this will prevent you from throwing up in their face whatever it was you feel they did to spark the argument.
   
   Second, realize people are human, so they make mistakes.
   
   Your partner is no exception. But when you decide you're going to keep a running tally on the mistakes made, you're dooming the relationship.
   
   Also keeping a running tally to later use as a weapon does not show any regard for your mate. Depending on the mistake made of course, it does not mean your mate doesn't love you.
   
   Third, don't ever use s*x as a weapon to try and control your mate.
   
   This is going totally against what you probably talked about when you decided to engage in a monogamous committed relationship. This happens far too much and could cause your mate to go outside the relationship to have their needs met.
   
   Using s*x as a weapon can cause resentment and in some cases violent reactions, so don't do it.
   
   So if you are considering getting involved in a committed relationship, you'll want to take the time and ask yourself what you expect from a relationship, and what you wont tolerate.
   
   This will help when you have that big blowup of an argument and want to mend fences to possibly get back together.

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