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Muslim man I love does haram things. Asalamu Alikom! I wish to stay anonymous because I don’t even know how to put this but here it goes. I have been a Muslimah for about eight months. Before converting I met a Muslim man on the interent who lives in America who told me a bit about Islam and I learnt more on my own through the next, books and converted!Before my conversion to islam we became engaged and plan was to get married when I reach America. I have no wali and no mahram as I no brother and my family are disbelievers and upset over my conversion. I also do not know how to pray yet, all my reading is in English except I have learnt al-fatihah in Arabic which I read many times each day. Also each day I pray in my own way to Allah; and Allah is All Hearing All Knowing!My fiancé was a born Muslim and really believes he is a true believer! But since he was young the society he is living in led him astray; doing drugs and alcohol, and he already had other relationships without being married.; he only prays on Fridays and he works in a liquor store. I dont blame him for his job because he is trying to make money to get me to him and he has no other job with which to buy food and the means to talk to me and Insha'Allah soon to marry me.As a new Muslim women I didn’t really care about all this until another muslim brother on the internet who offered to help me learn more about islam. He informed me about the stuff my fiancé is doing are haram and it’s also haram for a Muslimah to marry a man with these sins and his advice is that I should leave him. My problem is that I love my fiancé and care a great deal about him! I wish to marry him but I don't want to unless he is a good Muslim not lacking the things a true believer has. My fiancé also cares so much about me and he gives me money if I need it for anything, e.g. my health, my clothes, etc, and if I want something he will give me money for it also. He bought me my first hijab after I convinced him that I have to wear it and I am not afraid of what others might do to me! There is a hope he can change, he wants to live a religious life with me and he cares about me so much that I'm afraid I will hurt him and I love him too much to do this. He has given up some bad things that he did since meeting me and me talking to him about the harm he is doing. But he still is preoccupied by the things of this world. Also it is because of him I stand at this point in my life and he is the one that showed me to Islam and I owe him a lot for this. He praises me for the good I do in Islam; because I am still learning and developing my imaan to be good and strong. He treats me with respect and is faithful to me.Please help me because I don't believe as a good muslim women it is right for me to marry a man with such sins, but I don't wish to leave my fiancé because I love him and care about him! Please tell me what I can do. Thank you, barak Allah feek! Salaam; your sister in Islam.
Tags: haram, love, Muslim
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kick him to the curb, I hope you found someone better
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