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My boyfriend and I had a long distance relationship while i was finishing college. There is a ten year age gap between us and he has never really had a serious relationship before me. In my last semester we found out we were expecting which was a huge surprise. We had talked about getting married after I graduated and having kids down the road so this was a huge leap in our plans. We had a few problems over the length of our relationship: like him texting other girls, talking to them on the computer, hiding his phone when I came to visit, going out and not telling me, disappearing and not answering his phone; but, i forgave him knowing this relationship was a huge transition for him. Well, I moved in after graduation and waited for the arrival of our son. When he arrived we were both other the moon with excitment and were the happiest proudest parents you have ever seen. Our son had stomach problems and never slept and it really caused us a lot of stress. Having no sleep started to take it's toll and he told me i should stay with my mom and see if she could help him. When i came back i noticed him hiding his phone again and when he wasn't looking i took it and saw a few messages that were talking about how great the last week had been. The next morning i confronted him and he admitted to sleeping with one girl. I didn't think he was telling the truth so i started going through the numbers in his phone and calling them. I found out he had been sleeping with about eight women over the length of our relationship and four in the last week. He admitted it to me and swore he could change. He knew i was the one he wanted to be with but was scared to commit. I've stayed for three weeks trying to fix it and he has given me his phone and passwords to everything. I'm so hurt i don't even want to get up in the morning. I don't know what to do. I really need some advise.
Tags: cheated, forgive, pregnant
Wherever this joker happens to be, you should head in the exact opposite reaction. I understand that having a baby with this clown complicates matters, but rolling through 8 women while you were pregnant and taking care of his baby is beyond forgivable. He has a history of this type of suspicious behaviour and to be honest he doesn't seem intent on stopping. A slip up once while drunk where he admits it to you first is one thing...hiding this vast network of booty calls is something totally different. He doesn't treat you with respect and love, why subject your child to that? Whatever relationship he will have with his child, make him earn it day by day.
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