I just broke up with my partner of 6 years because of his gaming (COD). I put up with it for 3.5 years. He doesn't see a problem with it playing all day and night, pretending to be sickm, on weekends and holidays. In fact he says that I am just being difficult and trying to dominate him by getting him off the computer. I am independant and don't need him to do things with, but I don't need to come home to a madman yelling and screaming till 4am breaking things whilst I try and sleep so that I can work the next day. He lies to me about the time he spends on the machine, the new games he buys, and new parts for the machine. He won't eat, shave or takes late showers. I am just thankful that I don't have kids with him.
Today he said that he had a real life online with his E-Friends. They were great mates! Its the new age and way of making friends he said. Like they will come by for a BBQ and help you move house! He is on a completely different planet. He has no friends outside of the game that he can go to the movies or have a coffee with. He lost his job 5 months ago (we are both lawyers) and expected me to cover the mortgage. His words to me were that he expected his partner to help him get back on his feet by paying but he never looks for a job!! I refused and so his parents cover his half and I cover mine. He has cunningly made me out to be shallow that I am just about money and control. I hardly think that my requests have been unreasonable - shave, sleep, eat, bath, get a job, socialise with some friends in real life, get some sunlight and so some sport!
He can't see that his lack of motivation, self control, maturity and refusal to take resposibility has made him one very unattractive person. How is anyone to build a life with someone like that?! He is 39 years old.
I have not been back at the house for 3 weeks now and I refuse to. He still defends the game as though I have to accept it if we are to be togather. Point is, I have moved on. I am not sticking around and want to be compared to a game and what joy it brings him. If that is his mindset, lets see how supportive his game is going to be for the remainder when I am no longer there. It is destroying his life and I refuse to let it destroy mine as well.
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