Broken engagment confused?

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1. arshee naz
   

   First and foremost you have to step back and give yourself a break and look at the whole situation and decide what you want in life.  I'm sorry to hear about this happening, but  think of the long run; it's less of a heart-ache than going into a marriage that doesn't work. it sucks and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I can add lots of others things that can help you cope with this situation but try these for now and next time you are online let me know and we can have a chat. These might be helpful for getting through any major crisis, in fact - not just a breakup.
   
      1. Take at least one day off work. People will hear your news through the grapevine quickly. You need to ensure that you have taken enough personal time to collect yourself and your thoughts, so that you will be able to handle the onslaught of questions without bursting into tears or snapping at people. If you have an office, I would suggest putting up a sign outside your door saying you're on a deadline and not to disturb you unless urgent. It will make the transition back to work easier if you can just focus on work.
   
      2. Live in the moment. Don't worry about the future and how you will ever find another partner or how this crisis has set you back in your life plans. Our life plan change all the time so Make a new plan when you are no longer in crisis mode, but until then, live in the moment: focus on the way your cup of tee tastes as you lay back and enjoy a warm bubblebath, or how the cool air feels on your face as you run through nature trails with your dog (that is if you have a dog). Don't worry about anything. Simply exist. A crisis has a way of making you hyper-aware of everything because you're at a crossroads in your life but time is what sets everything on the right path. This can make it easier to notice some of the small pleasures life has to offer like the way a flower smells and they way sun rises. It will help you be joyful again.
   
      3. Turn to your friends and family. This may or may not seem natural to you and not everyone does it. I am naturally an introvert and found myself withdrawing a lot and wanting everyone to leave me alone this week, but I felt so much sadder when I was alone; and being around people who actually care and have the best interest of me at heart does go a long way. Note that I don't necessarily mean that you have to talk about the crisis with them. Just spend time with them and they will get you laughing again.
   
      4. Create boundaries. Only spend time with people and try not to share what happened with just about anyone. When people hear your news, they will naturally come up and ask you what happened and if you are okay. They are simply displaying concern for your well-being and trying to support you, so it's good that they ask. However, talking about it over and over can become draining. You don't have to tell everyone who asks about your crisis. You get to decide who to confide in. If somebody asks about it and you don't want to discuss it, simply say, "It has been a tough week but I'm doing fine and its time to have a kitkat. Thank you for your concern." If they press for details, it's perfectly acceptable to tell them that you would prefer not to discuss it.

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2. Guest1045
   

   whocares about him; never talk to him again and never let a man crush you like this. he is a loser and will always be a loser, it takes a real man to live up to his committements. you don't need him.

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