I feel like I have no personality and I'm really insecure, can anyone give me advice?

2 ANSWERS

1. Guest8577
   

   assalam u alaikum warahmatullah
   
   you kno what, don't worry.
   honestly, yu mite think this is not helpful rite now but think abouit it. look at ur problem compared to all the problems in the world. Theres poverty, racism.. all tht stuff. ur problem is nothing in that scale. nd besides, as long as you are truly happy with who you are, it really doesn't matter. At the end, in your grave, its jst you. no one else. don't let people judge you. And any of the things you mentioned (being boring) can be changed instantly. So don't you dare for a second think that you hav to keep up with it because you don't. People often tend to "box" themself nd put themselves into a category. For example, if i am shy, i can't be talkative one day even if i feel like talking. No, you can do whatever the h**l you want, whenever the h**l you want it. Honestly, people are too self-conceited to care about what other people think. Just do whatever you want. You think your boring? When you meet people, talk to them about the randomest things. Like "so where are you from?" wanna get close with people, invite them for dinner, go to the movies, have interesting convos nd be FREE with them don't be reserved. This is the only way you'll get close to a person. Break that wall of formality between you and the person.
   
   You know what, sometimes people just think too low of themselves and think they are boring, but remember, even the friends you have right now, are around you because they like something about you. Which means you are interesting in a way because something about you pulls them to being your friend which no one else has.
   
   
   Remember, atleast 2 people in the world are thinking about you before they go to bed.
   
   DOESN"T THAT MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL?!?!
   
   People are often unreasonable, illogical,
   And self-centered;
   Forgive them anyway.
   
   
   If you are kind, people may accuse you
   Of selfish, ulterior motives;
   Be kind anyway.
   
   If you are successful, you will win some
   False friends and some true enemies;
   Succeed anyway.
   
   If you are honest and frank;
   People may cheat you;
   Be honest and frank anyway.
   
   What you spend years building,
   someone could destroy overnight;
   Build anyway.
   
   If you find serenity and happiness,
   they may be jealous;
   Be happy anyway.
   
   The good you do today,
   people will often forget tomorrow;
   Do good anyway.
   
   Give the world the best you have,
   and it may never be enough;
   Give the world the best you've got anyway.
   
   You see, in the final analysis
   it is between you and God
   It was never between you and them anyway.
   
   
   AT THE END, NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, REMEMBER, YOU WILL ALWAYS BE YOUR OWN PERSON AND PEOPLE WILL KNOW YOU FOR IT!
   
   
   i hope i helped in any way possible
   
   
   all praise be to ALLAH SWT, the most gracious the most merciful.
   
   allah hu akbar
   
   assalamuailakum warahmatullah
   
   SINCERELY,
   
       your sister in Islam.

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2. Guest1258
   

   assalam u alaikum warahmatullah
   
   you kno what, don't worry.
   honestly, yu mite think this is not helpful rite now but think abouit it. look at ur problem compared to all the problems in the world. Theres poverty, racism.. all tht stuff. ur problem is nothing in that scale. nd besides, as long as you are truly happy with who you are, it really doesn't matter. At the end, in your grave, its jst you. no one else. don't let people judge you. And any of the things you mentioned (being boring) can be changed instantly. So don't you dare for a second think that you hav to keep up with it because you don't. People often tend to "box" themself nd put themselves into a category. For example, if i am shy, i can't be talkative one day even if i feel like talking. No, you can do whatever the h**l you want, whenever the h**l you want it. Honestly, people are too self-conceited to care about what other people think. Just do whatever you want. You think your boring? When you meet people, talk to them about the randomest things. Like "so where are you from?" wanna get close with people, invite them for dinner, go to the movies, have interesting convos nd be FREE with them don't be reserved. This is the only way you'll get close to a person. Break that wall of formality between you and the person.
   
   You know what, sometimes people just think too low of themselves and think they are boring, but remember, even the friends you have right now, are around you because they like something about you. Which means you are interesting in a way because something about you pulls them to being your friend which no one else has.
   
   
   Remember, atleast 2 people in the world are thinking about you before they go to bed.
   
   DOESN"T THAT MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL?!?!
   
   People are often unreasonable, illogical,
   And self-centered;
   Forgive them anyway.
   
   
   If you are kind, people may accuse you
   Of selfish, ulterior motives;
   Be kind anyway.
   
   If you are successful, you will win some
   False friends and some true enemies;
   Succeed anyway.
   
   If you are honest and frank;
   People may cheat you;
   Be honest and frank anyway.
   
   What you spend years building,
   someone could destroy overnight;
   Build anyway.
   
   If you find serenity and happiness,
   they may be jealous;
   Be happy anyway.
   
   The good you do today,
   people will often forget tomorrow;
   Do good anyway.
   
   Give the world the best you have,
   and it may never be enough;
   Give the world the best you've got anyway.
   
   You see, in the final analysis
   it is between you and God
   It was never between you and them anyway.
   
   
   AT THE END, NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, REMEMBER, YOU WILL ALWAYS BE YOUR OWN PERSON AND PEOPLE WILL KNOW YOU FOR IT!
   
   
   i hope i helped in any way possible
   
   
   all praise be to ALLAH SWT, the most gracious the most merciful.
   
   allah hu akbar
   
   assalamuailakum warahmatullah
   
   SINCERELY,
   
       your sister in Islam.

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