Married Man, Married Woman - Emotional Affair

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1. Jennifer
   

    

   
   

   Emotional activities in wedding life range from casual meetings round the office water cooler to conversing until 2 a.m. in a lounge or computer chat room. These activities of the heart have very genuine consequences on marriage relationships.
   
   Emotional double-crossing is about interacting with deep thoughts and feelings with somebody other than your life partner – and about holding emotional secrets. You can be in the same room with your spouse and have an emotional relation with somebody else!
   
   "Most women prefer emotional contact above all, so if their partner is having emotional contact with someone else, it can feel very threatening," says Neuman. Emotional affairs are one form of emotional contact.

   
   

   

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2. Guest5365
   

   Life is cruel, in one sense.  Our circumstances change.  Our interests and activities change throughout our lives.  We discover new interests, get involved in new activities and meet new people with similar interests involved in the same activities, as our circumstances change.  At some point in the midst of these changes, we meet someone whom we feel is the right person for the rest of our lives.  And yet, the changes in our lives continue.  We discover new interests, get involved in new activities and meet new people with similar interests involved in the same activities.  At some point in the midst of these changes, we meet someone whom we feel is the right perons for the rest of our lives.

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3. Guest8020
   

   i am a married man persured a married woman with two teenage kids.she is older but hot i told her i am very attracted to her to her,she is beautiful.i am friends with her husband and at times find some excuse just to see her .the feeling is mutual we have been goin for almost 8months. out of that 4 are intirmate.we know each othe for three years. she never said she loves me but when she is near it is like magic.the look, smile, dress and will do anything i ask even if she is busy. i think i may be fallin in love with her do you think she loves me or is it just about the intirmacy.my wife and i have been living apart for 1yr on and off.i cant even remeber the last tym she touched me

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4. Guest9467
   

   It never ceases to amuse me that people who use the excuse of "I am unhappy in my marriage..." seem determined to spread that unhappiness around.  If you have been unhappy for 12 years, then that's on you.  You should have gotten out of that marriage a long time ago and looked for someone who you could be happy with, if you're the type of person who even lets herself BE happy.

   
   

   I don't agree that the man in this case is somehow more culpable than this woman.  He has a responsibility to his own wife, to be sure - but the one who is cheating on her husband is HER.  She's the one who he took the vows with, not the other guy.

   
   

   I can understand wanting to be happy.  I can't understand wanting to wreck another family and hurt his kids just so YOU can be happy.  I also don't understand staying in a marriage for 12 years when you're not happy.  You're not doing yourself, your husband or your own kids any favors by staying and showing them the twisted personality you've become.

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5. Guest7853
   

    I completely understand where you are.....just remember to keep strong and know that you will find someone that deserves all of you not just some of you. 

   
   

   Never make someone your priority when you are just their option....it hurts.....and easier said than done....but it gets easier as time goes on. 

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6. Guest284
   

    Any man who makes a move on a married woman is opportunistic human filth. Seriously, it doesn't matter what sweet nothings he whispers in your ears, he's a sociopath, especially if he's pursuing you knowing full well you're married.

   
   

   And your husband probably loves you very much, you're suffering from some self esteem issues and you're going to devastate him if you cheat on him. The man you're married to MARRIED YOU and had a family, what else do you need to know to reassure yourself that you're with someone who loves you and wants you for himself, when a man marries, that's him assuring you that you're his "one" -- think about that before stealing intimacy from your marriage and giving it to someone who just wants to have s*x with a lot of women with no regard to you, your marriage or very simple human decency.

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7. Guest7206
   

   It`s so not worth it honey believe me .If you find yourself doing all of that for this man then it`s not worth it at all .

   Report (0) (0)  |   13 years, 6 month(s) ago  

8. Guest5363
   

   I agree with what they have said, its not getting you into the castle baby. You're gonna end up doomed if you still insist what you want.
   
   See I have been there, same spot that you are in right now. the difference was he didn't get into my way that easy and I didn't invest any affection/emotion on it. Well, I admit, we both had our own share of "one lusty night" and I am not proud of it.
   I have a very loving husband and i do feel guilty of me having done such "stupid act" of sleeping with other man. yeah partly, the need of being a woman was satisfied but emotionally it doesnt. As for me, I have learned my lesson. I won't be doing the same stupid mistake again. Save your family. Save yourself. as mention, "men are born hunters, they want those things that they cant have, dont be trapped again...

   Report (0) (0)  |   13 years, 7 month(s) ago  

9. Guest9119
   

   Don't be stupid! get a life with your own husband. don't be a home wrecking w***e. You will regret this later on, my husband does. he slept with a married woman being married to me because of all this stupid s**t and now he walks around with his head down and regrets it everytime. it is going no where. he loves his wife but at the same time wants a slideline w***e. don't lower your self to being the sideline w***e when you are already the wife= The queen..

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10. Guest7370
    

    "I don't want his family ruined, I just want his attention when he is not with them"   Honey, you and I both know that if it were to continue like that, it would not be enough.
    
    You deserve better than someone you have to share.  What is more likely to happen is that your husband will find out, may not stand by you, and you are going to be left holding the bag, because this man ain't leaving his wife and kids. You will be alone.  He is not going to build a life with you because he is using you physically and emotionally to meet his needs, but he does not want to, and will not dismantle his family over it. This is part of the lies we women tell ourselves when we get involved with men like this, though.
    
    Get a different job if you have to, but don't ensnare yourself like this.  
    
    You are living on your feelings and your emotions, and making decisions based on the deception they will bring you and it is sooooo dangerous.
    
    I'm sure you are smart, beautiful, and captivating. Channel all those good qualities into your husband. Educate your husband on what he could do to make you feel good, and likewise learn from him.  Don't view your marriage as something where you are there just to get your needs met, but also to meet your husbands needs. Not saying your needs aren't important, but you need to tell a man what you want, or trust me, he ain't gonna get it.
    
    Trust me, I've been there and done that.

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11. Guest9654
    

    Part time love is good for some and for others it causes lots of problems. you must be attractive women who knows how to handle herself, which is why he went along with you at times.  I think he is doing the right thing in staying away; it takes a very long time to build a family and one moment can mess up everything.  Like you said he is an amazing father, which means he will stand by his family.  Also men are hunters and want only the things they cannot get. initially he fell for you but than you made it too easy and hunters don't want easy hunt.  
    
    You should try to dress up for your husband; challenge yourself and see if you can get your husband to notice you with the animal instinct again. See if you can get him to dream about you and see if you can drive him crazy. who knows; maybe just maybe you can create the lost spark all over again.

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