Does size really matter? Why do women always ask this question and regardless of location its

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1. Guest6482
   

   This is universal for real, my wife asked me the same question also  I replied by asking her how fat were we talking -- under or over 220 pounds? She responded, “Over 200.” I decided to be honest and said that I would leave her.
   
   she got very angry and starting talking all kind of stuff. My logic was simple and i admit it I am shallow enough to love a person based on the looks, but I am not so shallow that it is the only reason I would love a person. I wanted a full package personality, great body and her looks which is why i fell in love with my wife.
   
   I told her if her weight went up i might lose some of s*x drive. to be honest if that was not the case; I would have gone after a much much larger woman.
   
   i guess honesty doesn't pay but i don't think i was wrong in being honest? i didn't think it was good to lie to make happy er happy? I felt regardless of anything honesty is the best method and is the only course in relationship -- it made our relationship stronger. but now she is not the same and holds that conversation against me every chance she gets. what should i do? I would appreciate help in this matter.

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2. Guest3234
   

   Who says we women are not our own worst enemy. We go looking for trouble and when it finds us we cry; for real, what is your wife doing asking such a loaded stupid hypothetical question? if she’s so sensitive about her weight, she is not going to let herself put on unwanted extra pounds. She is asking I must admit in a very stupid way if your love is unconditional.
   
   Being a guy, of course, you take it as a direct question and you might also felt she is trying to test if you are going to be honest or not so you answer it directly. Consider yourselves a poster couple for stereotypical husband wife miscommunication patterns. Yes and big yes, you probably should have just lied and told her you’d love her no matter what. And it wouldn’t really be lying because she just wants to know if you would love her no matter what, not the one about whether you like fat women or not, which was the question you were answering, right? Are you with me?
   
   Let me make it even simpler. Your honest answer was against the answer she was looking for. You said honesty makes your relationship stronger. You don’t say why or how, but I presume this is a good thing. For the future just encourage your wife to ask direct questions and some times its better to lie just to make someone feel better.  Just one more thing before I go. I’m wondering how your wife would respond to the same question would she leave you if you put on extra pounds.  Maybe you should ask her. If she response the same you are equal and if she says no she would not leave you; then that would be a topic of another discussion.

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3. Guest50
   

   its not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean that rocks the boat. but yes size matters.

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