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Should you play hard to get?

by Guest1056  |  12 years, 9 month(s) ago

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Women around the world follow this rule about men: Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen. Ok, so we're not mean exactly, but guys do seem to love the challenge of the hunt, and if we ladies give in too easily, too soon, they're turned off. Why is this so? And why do men lose interest once they "win" the game? is there and exception to this rule or all men are the same?

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  1. Guest1004
    Who says women are any different, they play the same game and do it in a pack.  Most women play hard to get.  i tested this, met a beautiful women gave her my number; first time she called to meet i said i was busy that week. Met with her the following week for a dinner, she was cool and well presented.  met her again few times but didn't make it easy.

    more i did that more she wanted to talk and then my manly instincts kicked in, we hit it off great, fireworks everywhere and that was the end of the fine dining. She only called for the fireworks every now and then, i felt used and abused. she only liked me for my body (lol).

    but the point of the story is, if you want the women to stay interested; you must play hard to get and when you are ready give in and yeeeehaaaa. it works every time.

  2. Guest2347
    There is no science to this, it all goes back to the days when men went off to hunt wooly Mammoths while the ladies hung back and took care of things at the cave. Or maybe its because the male of the species was biologically programmed to spread his seed as far as possible with as many mates as possible causing them to go through women like finger food.

    But none of this would explain why women are exactly the same. And you know they are. All my jerk friends who treat them like c**p get all the nice ones while the nice guys get none or get burned.  In my opinion as humans, we love a challenge. We are attracted to confidence and a little indifference; opposite attract. It calms our fears that the person isn't going to suck the life out of us with their neediness. It also gives us something to fight for. If relationships were easy, we'd all quickly get bored and go for a long walk off of a short bridge.



    It’s the challenge that keeps un interested in the game.  I mean think about it, when's the last time you wanted to hit it off with a man who called you to death.  We don't like them to give in too easily either do we? Makes us wonder what's wrong with them. Ideally, we all want balance. We want to be with someone who is confident and has a strong sense of themselves yet still has the capacity to love and give to a relationship. That way its still a challenge but no one has to "win."
  3. Guest3969
    ok here are my two cents; pay attention but not so much that you become a stalker. take it easy, let the time and meetings take its course.  both men and women are interested in those who show sincere interest.  

    Sure its better not to overdo it but our mind and bodies are used to the equilibrium effect.  when something is too little or too much the equilibrium process will correct it.  

    make each other laugh, don't just go for dinner or movie do other things that involve all five senses.  do things that are fun and create kodak moments.  Naturally if things are still working out, you are not alike and their might be short term future; if things are still on the right track after a while there might be other possibilities.

    Main thing is to have fun and enjoy.
  4. Guest497
    I don't know what you all are talking about, i get results all the time and i don't play hard to get at all. i'll go after anything that moves and would do it in a heartbeat.  

    Do you guys know there are lots of people out there who simply don't have the time to play hardball. they just want a relationship and they want it now.  maybe its due to all of the hardballers out there.

    if you all didn't play hard to get i won't be getting any. keep up the good work and remember everyone likes a challenge - while i get all the goods.
  5. Guest399
    Also where do you guys get the time to play catch games?
  6. Guest2198
    this is bull, to write about biologically needing to "spread his seed" is just an excuse. And so many men (and women) use this to excuse aberrant behaviour.

    "Playing" hard to get? "Playing" to win? How absolutely sad.

    People who treat relationships as games have never been in love.
  7. Guest2447
    i thought all of this was left behind in grade 8, when i see adults acting this way it makes me think. To take the process of finding your solemate and acting and decieving and pretending. What a bunch of c**p! This is life, not a game. No guy likes a liar.

    The best advice is to be yourself and leave your stupid mind games at the door.
  8. Guest815
    This question is furthermore very much misleading and confusing for men. i thought women along with,society and feminists want men to change and be loving towards women and to not treat women as some objects. And just when men start to understand and accept that, some female asks a stupid question "should you play hard to get"
  9. Guest3519
    Honesty is the best method, People need to be direct with what they are trying to do or else the other person just gets a mixed message.

    If you like me just tell me . Its stupid that everyone seems so afraid of rejection as if its going to kill you or something. Rejection is the main reason some people give mix signal; they just don’t want to ask and hear no.  If everyone was more direct about their intension's then there wouldn't be so much confusion. I mean sure no one likes someone who is too needy but their is a fine line between being needy and just making someone realize that you like them.
  10. Guest9688
    Lets put this straight,  this may be true about SOME people it for sure isn't for some others.

    some people hide their insecurities by acting in a certain way.   Men can be just as insecure as women and sometimes even on a deeper level. Also, the ego ultimately rules how a man acts and if a man thinks his woman is having second thoughts about the relationship by playing hard to get or what have you it can also cause a man to become guarded and veer from normal tendencies and true feelings.

    Neediness is also something some men actually like in a mate as it gives them a sense of manliness, control and power.  There is lot more to a relationship beside one person opinion or even judging the situation based on limited interaction.  Not everything is as it seems, especially when people don't know the whole picture of other peoples relationship.
  11. Guest9691
    This is interesting, keep it coming.  One thing is for sure the girls asking are single and the one suggesting is divorced.

    find a date.
  12. Guest8285
    where did everyone go?
  13. Guest4316
    this is a fact and most would agree, Women who play mind games and play hard to get these days are the same ones who are still single at 30 years old and gone through 20-30 relationships and wonder why nobody wants them.

    intially guys will chase but after couple of week of relationship, he's not going to stick.  long term relationship can only be build on trust, understanding and honesty. There is no other way.
  14. Guest3846
    one more thought; I actually agree with the premise that dating and courtship works better if men are the primary pursuers. There's nothing wrong with high maintenance woman wanting to be wooed and a man trying to win her heart.

    do you think this entire topic is insulting to both men and women? lets go be on the play yard mentality and lets live a happier life by giving everyone the respect they deserve.
  15. Guest9769
    i just want to play, i don't care it if hard, i don't care if it not. i just want some action. i'll take anything.
  16. Guest5235
    love is universal which means you can love more than one person and for sure you can love your girlfriend and your executive assistence
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