Dealing with an abusive brother

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1. amomipais82
   

   Hi,
   I went through something similar with my brother when we were both teenagers.  We are adults now, but I could not love him more now.  Now that we are adults and have put the past behind us, we get along great, and I am about to be an aunt for the first time in a few months, so I could not be happier.  But during our troublesome period many years ago, my brother was verbally and psychologically abusive, and he really hurt me.  But I had to take into consideration that we are both the products of divorced parents and a father who literally and figuratively wants nothing to do with either one of us.  My brother was also a problem for my mother, and I remember one time saying that I was even willing to move into a shelter because the pain from the situation was so bad.  Eventually I moved off to college, and even though we still had issues, time went by and things got better.
   
     As for your case, if things are so bad, why are you staying?  If I were you, I would find somewhere else to go.  Is there a relative or a close friend that is willing to take you in?  Are there shelters for children in your area?  By all means Jonathan, even though you are a teenager and not yet an adult, you have no right to be abused by anyone in any kind of way imaginable.  I would not still be living in a home with that kind of abuse, you cannot possibly be functioning correctly living in that type of environment.  You need to use the resources around you and find a way out.  I would rather live in a shelter that have someone whipping off in my a*s, excuse the language, but I am upset that you even have to go through this and that your mom is trying to ignore it, probably thinking that it will go away on its own, well it won't.
   
      You need to focus on you for the moment and you need to let your mother know that you are not willing to take this anymore, your brother should not be putting his hands on you. If I were you, the next time that he touches you, you need to call the police and have his stupid a*s arrested; yes, you do need to do that.  Jonathan, you need to find a way out of this.  What if your brother ends up killing you?  Look at all of the good things that you will miss out on.  Find a way out, I am not there physically to help you, but I can counsel you and help you through this.  Please let me know how things go.  You may contact me anytime that you need to.  Take care.
   
   
   All My Best,

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