why can't i get angry at my rapist?

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1. Guest2291
   

   you have a problem. you should tell someone and get this sorted out- unless its not rape at all and its somone you know and trust just being a little pushy, if this is the case have a chat.

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2. Guest9631
   

   I was only 7 when I was orally raped.  I am now 48.  I am seeing a counselor.  I was asked to write to the rapist and tell him how I feel.  I was advised that I needed to write another letter and to get real angry.  The reason I think I don't know how to get angry is that my family wanted to keep this quiet because the 16 year old boy was a son of a military man that my dad worked with.  My parents did not seek counseling for me as they thought I was fine.  I wasn't.  I just did not know how to express myself.  I had an out of body experience.  I could see the boy from above.  I guess that was a way that my mind needed to protect myself.  I have had to live everyday since with these thoughts but I don't know how to get real angry at that 16 year old boy.  I am not one who swears or wishes harm to anyone.  Any advice?

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3. Guest4488
   

    That is the fear inside you. You need to be brave enough. You need to move ahead from that point. You know that he has committed a physical abuse. Now what you need to do is to inform the authorities. 

   
   

   That is the right way. And no need to be angry by that you can't change the reality. You need to focus on how you can punish him. 

   
   

   Here i would like to mention one more thing that if you are not going to take any action against him then he might be trying it again and again. He will soon realize that you are not informing any one about the incidence so he will be trying again. 

   
   

   You should inform the authorities at once.  

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4. Guest565
   

   This happened to me 41 years ago.  I don't know the boy's name or his families last name.  It was my parents that did not want to report this to the authorities I was only 7.  I believe because my dad was in the military and knew the boy's dad who was also in the service - You know "the good ol boys club" - he was protecting the perpetrator's dad.  Does anyone else have any advice on how I can get REAL ANGRY at that 16 year old boy who is now 57?

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